Wednesday marks our brand new baby, Thomas Winston's, 2 month milestone. Over the next three days I decided that it would be fun to celebrate by writing out each of our children's birth stories. So first babies first!
Henry and Martin, Our Twins
(Our adorable boys at 4 months)
When Micah and I were first married, like all newly weds, we talked about when to start a family. No couple agrees on everything, but because we had both desired to have a large family ever since we were kids, it wasn't hard to quickly agree that we would like to become parents within the first few months. We were married at the end of August 2008 and we both thought that February of the following year would be ideal to start thinking about having a baby. I was working to establish my Mary Kay business in a brand new area, and Micah was working hard on our fixer upper first home. It would be good to have a few months to ourselves. February just sounded best!
Well not too much to my surprise, low and behold, I discovered that sure enough I was pregnant the first week of March 2009. Micah had planned an afternoon get away to one of those "scam you into a timeshare" deals (we didn't realize it was that at the time)... so I thought this would be the perfect time to surprise him with the news that we were having a baby! While we were waiting on our tour guide to take us around the wooded resort, Micah and I walked up to lovely, picturesque country church.
So with excited jitters I asked my husband, "So what do you think we'll be doing for Thanksgiving this year?"
He answered, "Well maybe we'll do what we did last year and drive out to your parents' place (in Ohio)."
"Well I was thinking that they will probably come out and visit us around that time so they can see the baby," I casually answered.
Kisses, romantic squeezes, and excited dialogue ensued. Needless to say we turned down the "offer of a lifetime" at the lovely vacation spot, but have beautiful memories regardless.
We decided to keep my pregnancy a secret until the end of the month when we would be in Indiana for the Mary Kay Career Conference. We would be able to tell my family in person instead of over the phone.
When we went in for our first prenatal appointment with Dr. Kindred, we were ushered into a room with what I found out later was a sonogram machine. I didn't realize at the time that most doctors like to do a sonogram when you first come in, I assumed that would be later. As the sonogram tech (whom we later found out was Dr. Kindred's wife) slathered the sono jelly on my tummy, I thought about how I couldn't wait to see the first images of our baby.
After a few moments of looking at images that I wasn't really sure what was what exactly, the sonogram tech asked, "Do you have infertility problems?" I thought this was a really strange question to be asking in general, but especially since I was obviously pregnant on a sonogram table.
"No?" I said, "why?"
"Well it looks like you might have spontaneous twins here."
Huh? Uh...spontaneous? TWINS? Uh....And so I asked, "What does that mean?"
"Well, I have a heartbeat right....here. And then...," (a little too much time later) "a heart beat here. Yes, you're having twins."
"Really?" "What?" "Oh wow!" "Awesome" "Yaaay!" Yes some version of all of this was uttered by Micah and I over the next few minutes. The tech gave me a moment to use the restroom and I could hear her and Micah talking about her own set of twins, while I was dumbstruck attempting to wrap my brain around the idea that my baby was actually babies! I had always thought it would be fun to have twins when I was a girl, but since becoming an adult had not really given it any thought.
(Just after I told Micah the Big news)
Spreading the News
On the way home from the doctor's appointment I just HAD to call my sister, Lydia. Like I mentioned we hadn't planned to tell anyone until the end of March, but I just couldn't hold it in any longer. I had to leave her a message, telling her that I needed her to call me back. Not long later my phone rang.
"Hey what did you need?" she asked, giving me really no chance for small talk.
"Uh, well....we're having twins!"
"Oh, well I'm heading into Wal Mart....," she began to chat casually.
"Did you hear me?"
"Yeah I think so, what did you say? You're having twins? Like twin puppies?"
"Puppies?!?! no, we're pregnant, we're having twin CHILDREN."
It was obvious that Lydia was having a hard time making the jump to twins when she didn't know I was even pregnant. Later that night Micah told me that since I had told my sister that he should get to call his brother, Ben to see if his reaction would be similar. So we put Ben on speaker phone to tell him the great news.
Micah started off the conversation by saying, "So we're having twins."
Silence. "Hey Ben, are you there?
Confused Ben said, "What that's...that's not even a sentence....?"
Although the first two instances of sharing our exciting news had produced lots of laughter between the two of us, Micah and I determined that it would be best to tell everyone that we were pregnant first, and THEN a few moments later, break the "rest" of the news. So the Thursday before we left for Indiana the Repke sisters and our friend Katie Ackerman had set up a girls night out to the pottery barn in Peoria. We also had to work in telling Micah's side of the family the same night. We thought this might become a problem with the late night so we decided to tell Micah's sister Liesl first that we were pregnant. We thought that this would be a good idea so that she could help me to get everyone back to the farm in a timely manner before mom Repke went to bed, so we could share the news. We purposefully left out the part about twins when we told her.
When we arrived at the farm, mom was really tired and was just about to go to bed. Micah knocked on her bedroom door and asked her to come to the kitchen telling her that "Jo had some exciting news to share," in hopes that she'd think that it had something to do with Mary Kay.
The entire family had congregated in the kitchen. All eyes were on us, that is except for Liesl who was picking at the stir fry on the stove since she obviously knew what we were about to say (so she thought!). Micah started the announcement.
"We want everyone to know that we are pregnant!"
There was gush of excitement through the room. "Oh I thought something was fishy when you weren't feeling well last week!" and "OH I figured that's what you were going to say," and "Congratulations!" were all some of the remarks heard.
Micah interjected, "Ok so who's going to volunteer to babysit the baby?"
A sister here and a sister there, "Oh I'll do it," "That will be so fun," "Me!" and such.
Micah continued, "Oh good, well who's going to babysit the other baby?" Liesl stops picking at the stir fry, completely at attention.
Confusion...??? (Mom Repke later confessed that she thought Micah was referring to Buddy, or rat terrier...to which she was about to say, "Not me!") Amelia was the first sibling to figure it out.
"You mean twins??? You're having twins?"
"YEP!" There were a few doubters in the room, but they quickly changed their tune when we showed them the sonogram pictures. We swore the family to secrecy since my side of the family (except for Lydia) still hadn't heard the news.
The next day we began our road trip to Indiana. I spent the evening at Career Conference with my sales director Gloria. The plan was to arrive back at Gloria's house after the first night of the conference, Micah would pick me up a little after 9 and we would head over to my parents' hotel to share the big news with them. I wanted to tell my parents first before I told my MK consultant friends at the conference on Saturday.
We arrived back at Gloria's house on Friday night much later than we had expected. I had called my mom to tell her that we'd be able to come see them that night, but that it wouldn't be until a bit later than I had originally told her. She told me that it would be better if we just came the next day since she was very tired from her trip. I thought to myself, That just won't work! I need to tell the girls tomorrow! and I'll be gone all day.
Micah met me to pick me up at Gloria's house after 10 pm, and we headed straight AND quickly towards my parent's hotel By this point I was determined to tell my parents that night one way or another. But how would we pull it off without tipping them off. All of a sudden a plan began to form. We were set to stay the night at my brother, John-Paul's house and my parents knew this. We quickly called up my brother and told him, "Guess what! We're pregnant! and we're trying to get to mom and papa's hotel room to tell them before tomorrow, so if they call you in the next few minutes or so, DON'T answer the phone!"
"Uh...ok...congratulations...," my poor brother.
I hung up and called my mom's number, ready to lay one heck of a whopper on her. She didn't answer, Urg. I called my dad's cell number. Still no answer. I kept dialing the two numbers until my dad picked up.
"Honey, you're mom's sleeping," he whispered.
"Well here's the thing. We can't get a hold of John-Paul or Alita (my sister-in-law). And so we have no where to crash tonight, can we please come and stay with you guys. We'll sleep on the floor!"
"What? That doesn't make sense, he knew you were coming right? Did you call both of their cell numbers? Did you ring their door bell? Did you ring it REALLY hard? Sometimes they can't hear it if you don't push REALLY hard."
I sigh, "Ok we'll go back and ring it REALLY hard."
A few minutes later we called my dad back, "We rang it REALLY hard and they still didn't answer, can we PLEASE come crash on your floor?
"Well I guess."
After attaining the room number a few minutes before arriving at their hotel room door, we knocked. My dad answered with a groggy expression.
"That was quick!"
We tip toed in to find mom awake sitting in bed, with a not so impressed look on her face. "Well we have some great news!" We weren't going to leave them (or us) in suspense. "We're pregnant!"
Facial expressions immediately changed. "Really? I've been thinking we'd hear that sometime soon," and "Oh praise the Lord!" They chatted on with us about how exciting this was.
I pulled out the sono picture and asked mom if she wanted to see the baby. "Oh yes! Let me see!" She looked at the picture, not hiding her confusion. "Where is he?"
"Well there's the one baby...and there's the other baby."
Speechless, goofy grins, and then, "No...really?" And more "Praise the Lord!" "Wow!" etc.
From there on we found this to be the most fulfilling way to share the news. First, "We're pregnant." Then, "It's twins!"
The Wait
(Yes, we had fun with my HUGE belly!)
My first trimester took me a bit by surprise. I figured I'd either feel terrible, puking every morning (found out later that morning sickness can happen all day long), or that I might just feel great and get to skip the icky first trimester feelings all together. Instead I had more of a dull, nervous feeling most of the time those first several weeks. My second and third trimesters were much better. Believe it or not I never actually had that feeling that I just "needed to have these babies RIGHT NOW" the way some describe. It might have had a lot to do with the uncertainty of being a mom for the first time to not one, but two babies!
When talking about the birth with my doctor I honestly had no idea that most twins were born CSection. I assumed that everyone just tried to do things naturally, and that if that didn't work then there was "plan B"- surgery. When I found out that more than half of twin births were CSections I did feel a little nervous. I had always looked forward to getting to participate in all aspects of my pregnancies including the birth process. Towards the end of my second trimester, Micah and I signed up for a Lamaze class. We really enjoyed it and learned a lot. Everyone seemed very supportive of our desire to have a natural birth. Looking back I remember that when it came time to practice pushing the instructor told me that it would be best if I didn't participate in this part. She told me that she didn't want to put me into early labor. I agreed without much of a thought about it. I wonder now if she just really didn't expect that I'd need the "pushing skills."
As my pregnancy began creeping closer and closer to the 36 week mark the sonograms were showing that twin B was slowly gaining more weight than twin A. Dr. Kindred told us that if the percentage reached a certain level then we would need to do a CSection, for fear that "twin/ twin transfusion" wasn't taking place which can be very dangerous. A couple days before the 36 week mark I went in for my prenatal. We found out that sure enough the gap between weights was much bigger than before and Dr. Kindred's advice was that we do a CSection as soon as possible for fear of loosing one or both of the boys. This was definitely not what we were praying for, but we reminded each other that we knew women and knew of plenty of women who had had successful VBAC's (vaginal births after cesarean). There was not much of a debate, the surgery was what we needed to do.
The Big Day
(Henry on the left and Martin on the right...awe!)
We arrived early in the morning on Sunday, October 11, 2009 at Proctor Hospital. I was very glad to hear that I would be able to be awake for the surgery. I sat there while the nurse did this and that to get me ready for surgery. It seemed so strange that in less than an hour I would be able to see my babies for the first time.
Micah joined me in the surgery room. I had had a couple of surgeries prior on a troublesome broken wrist, so although I was nervous, being under the knife wasn't completely new either. I was most surprised by how quickly the doctor delivered/ removed the first baby. Baby Boy A! Also known as Henry Micah Repke. It was such a wonderful feeling to meet my first son. As I was getting to enjoy looking at my little guy, I heard the doctor reassuring me that it wouldn't take long, but that Baby Boy B was stuck under my rib, so I'd feel some pulling. That was honestly the strangest part of it all, but not too long later Martin Lloyd Repke was born. I was not able to see him right away because the nurses hurried him to an area to help him with his breathing. I had a small amount of fear for a moment, but they were able to get him breathing rather quickly and neither of the boys ever needed breathing machines or any other NICU care. We were so grateful to the Lord!
Both boys took to nursing very quickly. We ended up having to supplement for a short time through a supplemental nurser due to climbing bilirubin levels. The lactation nurse was very helpful and I was glad to have the extra support. I did tandem nursing (both boys at the same time) for the first three months whenever it was convenient. This helped to save time.
The boys are now 3 1/2 and are mama's big helpers (occasionally)
We really praise the Lord that my twin pregnancy went so well and that even though we ended up with a cesarean, that He guided the doctor's hands and kept me and the babies safe!
(First Sunday at church!)